Perspective

As the years have gone by and I’m not just talking about the time in the pandemic, our views on certain things have changed drastically. It could be because maybe you had an experience which made you wiser or maybe because you’ve grown and learned a bit more about the world works. So, here’s some things which I had a completely different view of, once I grew older:

1. Studies: I used to think that studies were one of the most important things because they carried a lot of weight in your life but as I got older I realized that we are not using most of the stuff that we study so just go live your life. we waste our life being stressed. Yes, studies are important to a certain extent but so are you. Sometimes you just need to put your books down and look at the world around you. There’s so much to explore out there that you will never learn in a textbook. Education from school does teach you a lot but so does experience and if you don’t go out there to experience things, you will never learn. Both these forums of education carry an importance. Remember, study hard but also live your life. find a balance

2. The grand scheme of things: earlier, I would be afraid of how much a small thing could carry a great impact in the future but as time went on I learned different because, in the grand scheme of things, it is really small compared to everything going on. If you think about it, we are so small compared to the universe and so are our problems. If you spend the rest of your life afraid of how one small thing can affect you then you will never put yourself out there. Sometimes you got to tell yourself that something is really not that deep. You are giving it too much importance. Don’t let it get to you because it will only affect you how much you let it affect you

3. Let it go: corresponding to what I said in the above point, there are some things we stress about that are out of our control. We cannot much do much to prevent it or to make it happen (to each their own). If you want to focus your energy on something, focus it on the things you can control. I’ve learned a lot about how mindset helps you a lot (let me know if you want a blog on that). Just changing up the way you think about things or yourself is so important. Sometimes, you need to let things go. When something is over and it might be bothering you, stop thinking about it. It’s over, it's done. Let it go.

4. Happiness: earlier, I was very bad at figuring out my priorities but as I grew older, I started to prioritize myself a lot. Honestly, if something makes you happy, it doesn’t matter what the world thinks of it. People will always have opinions about everything and you cannot control it (again, if it’s out of your control, let it go). Prioritize your happiness because it affects your mental health. If something makes you happy, do not waste your time thinking about the things that don’t. it’s a beautiful thing to have a smile on your face

5. Friendship: this is way back in the day, I believed that surface-level friendships were actual friendships. It’s just a matter of time before you find your people. I think I speak for everyone when I say that, during the pandemic, we have realized the importance of friendships and relationships. I realized the true joy of family and I worked on keeping my friendships. Honestly, if you have the right people in your life, you don’t even feel down. Just give them a call and it’s like your meeting your friend anyway. Prioritize keeping your friendships because they matter a lot and take a few hours out of your day to hang out with your family. Use this time to mend some friendship because there is no point in holding grudges, life is too short to spend your energy hating someone

6. Change: I pretty much never thought my life would change as much as it has. Not only because of Covid-19 but also in general. It makes me think that maybe we really don’t have as much time as we thought we did. This does not necessarily mean that change is bad because change could be however you decide to embrace it and how you decide to feel about it. Remember, life won’t always be like it is. Things change and that’s okay. I feel like change is very subjective to the type of person dealing with it.

7. Taking things for granted: before our life took a turn for the worse, I enjoyed normal things like going out for a walk or going to a movie unaware of their value. As the pandemic hit, I realized how important the little things are. I truly realized the meaning of, ‘It’s the Little Things in Life.’ how the smallest things are so so important and to hold on to. I truly will never take any of the normal things for granted again. It’s like the saying, we never realize how important things are until we lose them. It could be the simplest of things like your sense of smell.

8. Self-growth: I feel like the pandemic has become a medium for me to grow. We have all the time in the world to ourselves. Discovering more about yourself is so interesting. Seeing your overall journey is fascinating, to say the least. Maybe one of these days, look at a picture of yourself before Covid and look at a picture of you now. You will see how you have not only physically grown but also mentally and how you are more comfortable in your own skin

I asked a few of my friends if anything had changed their perspectives over the years:

1. Not caring about what people think: earlier people were very self-conscious about themselves. Let’s take the simple example of zoom, like caring what people think about you and making sure your video is fine, and constantly checking your hair. As time progressed, she realized that there is no point in doing that and kind of stopped caring what people thought. Just do your own thing, people will judge regardless

2. Putting yourself out there: before COVID started she never really put herself out there and kind of stayed in her comfort zone. When COVID started she realized that we don’t have a lot of time and looking back at how much time has gone in quarantine we never know when we will get our life back. So just take the risk, it can end good or bad but what you take away is an experience. Don’t be afraid, go for it

3. Following the crowd: she put this beautifully. Let’s take an example of a song, there was probably a phase a few years ago where everyone was listening to Taylor Swift, and let’s say she only listened to the song because everyone else around her was listening to it but as time went on she realized that she did not want to listen to them. She then during quarantine found out that she liked songs that were less from our generation and more from the 90s. she kind of found her music, she kind of became her own person and broke off from the so-called, ‘crowd.’

4. Giving things a chance: sometimes we already decide that we can’t do a certain thing because it is too hard or it doesn’t interest us. We should stop and give it a chance and maybe be open-minded because everything is not what it seems. Sometimes all we have to do is give things a chance and walk on the road they lead us to. As they say, everything deserves a chance

I hope you enjoyed reading this. It’s crazy to think how our perspective changes so much in a few years. Here’s something to ponder on: what is a major thing in which your perspective has changed over the years and why?

Thanks for reading,

Xx Mahika

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