Dear Society...

Dear society please stop judging a girls body, please stop treating people according to how much money they have, please stop normalizing having beauty standards, please stop making a big deal about being ‘popular.’ Why do we have to always have to fit it when we were born to stand out. Not everyone has a perfect face, a perfect body or a perfect life.

After we are born someone decides which religion, culture, nationality we belong to and we spend the rest of our life defending something we did not choose. We live in such an artificial world, where we have to act a certain way, look a certain way, and have a certain amount of money. I never got the concept of having a ‘society.’ We always have this constant fear of being judged, that if we do something people are going to react in a certain way. Like if we wear this, people will whisper behind our backs. That’s is a horrible life to live.

Remember these things, it does not matter how you look. It does not matter if you do not have as many friends compared to someone else, it does not matter if you are not as thin as someone else. You are not defined by the way you look or the way your body is. Just remember this no one can tell you how to look or how to act except you. Why should someone’s opinion matter to you so much, you should only care about what your loved ones think.

Some tips I can offer to care less about what other people think are: -

1. Change your mindset, when you are putting on an outfit, instead of thinking, “What will everyone think, what if no one likes it?” try to think, “Do I like this outfit, do I feel confident in this outfit?”

2. You can also try not to take everyone’s opinion to heart, if you are confident about whatever it is anyone else is judging then nothing else matters

3. If you ever need an opinion, ask the people you love and trust because they always want what’s best for you

Nobody’s perfect, everyone has some or the other flaw, instead of pointing out that flaw try encouraging them to grow into the best person they can be. Instead of putting other girls down to feel better about yourself, try working towards it to make it better.

Here is a bunch of motivating quotes, to make you feel good about yourself and to inspire you because you are worth it-

· I’m working on myself, for myself

· Life is too short to spend it at war with yourself

· To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness

· How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you

· Being positive isn’t pretending that everything is good- it's seeing the good in everything

· Know your worth. Don’t ask for it. State it. And never accept anything less

In conclusion,

Dear society, please understand it is okay if a girl wants to wear what she wants, it is okay if a girl wants to do what a guy is doing and the other way round, it’s okay if she is not as popular and does not have a million friends, it is okay if he does not make as much money as she does, it is okay if she is not as ‘skinny’ or as beautiful as someone else and it is okay if she chooses not to fit in with the crowd, because different is change and change is growth and growth is the best the thing you can do for yourself

Thanks for reading

Xx Mahika